For u,women

If a man wants you, nothing can keep him away.

If he doesn't want you, nothing can make him stay.

Stop making excuses for a man and his behaviour. Allow your intuition(or spirit) to save you from heartache.
Stop trying to change yourself for a relationship that's not meant to be.
Slower is better.

Never live your life for a man before you find what makes you truly happy.

If a relationship ends because the man was not treating you as you deserve then heck no, you can't "be friends". A friend wouldn't mistreat a friend. Don't settle.

If you feel like he is stringing you along, then he probably is.
Don't stay because you think "it will get better." You'll be mad at yourself a year later for staying when things are not better.

The only person you can control in a relationship is you.

Avoid men who've got a bunch of children by a bunch of different women.
He didn't marry them when he got them pregnant, why would he treat you any differently?

Always have your own set of friends separate from his.
Maintain boundaries in how a guy treats you. If something bothers you, speak up.

Never let a man know everything.* He will use it against you later.

You cannot change a man's behaviour.* Change comes from within.

Don't EVER make him feel he is more important than you are... even if he has more education or in a better job. Do not make him into a quasi-god.

He is a man, nothing more nothing less.

Never let a man define who you are.

Never borrow someone else's man.

If he cheated with you, he'll cheat on you.

A man will only treat you the way you ALLOW him to treat you.

All men are NOT dogs.

You should not be the one doing all the bending...compromise is a two way street.

You need time to heal between relationships... there is nothing cute about baggage... deal with your issues before pursuing a new relationship

You should never look for someone to COMPLETE you...a relationship
consists of two WHOLE individuals...look for someone complimentary...not supplementary.

Dating is fun...even if he doesn't turn out to be Mr. Right.

Make him miss you sometimes...when a man always know where you are, and you're always readily available to him - he takes it for granted. -Isn't this TRUE!!!!!

Never move into his mother's house.

Never co-sign for a man.

Don't fully commit to a man who doesn't give you everything that you need.* Keep him in your radar but get to know others.

Share this with other women... You'll make someone smile, another rethink her choices, and another prepare.

-Oprah Winfrey-

The One

"He's out there. He's just all with the wrong women

When it's time, then he'll be yours"

from : http://thejosephines.blogdrive.com

I LOVE THIS STATEMENT =)

JakFlute (me) on Jakarta Globe

September 24, 2009

Tasa Nugraza Barley

Charity Olivia, 18, is is one of the youngest members in JakFlute, a group which aims to connect flute players in a nation where the instrument is not well-known. (JG Photo)


Jakarta’s Flutists Band Together

Inspired by the lack of opportunities for flutists to meet and practice, two professional musicians recently decided the time had come to unite players of the instrument in Jakarta by establishing the country’s first flute community.

Metta F Ariono founded JakFlute with fellow player Marini Widyastari in June.

“We were surprised to find that there were actually many flutists in this city. So we decided to create JakFlute,” Metta said.

“Indonesians are not very familiar with Western classical music instruments, but there are now more people who want to learn them, including the flute,” she said.

“There are three families of orchestral instruments. There are string instruments, wind instruments and percussion instruments. The flute is a wind instrument. Among all the wind instruments, flute is the most popular,” Metta said.

JakFlute now has 14 active members who meet every Sunday from 3 p.m. to 5 p.m. in Senopati.

They have already had one public performance and are preparing to perform at the National Monument, or Monas, on Oct. 11 as part of Japan Week, a cultural celebration organized by that nation’s embassy in Jakarta.

To attract a more diverse audience, JakFlute play a variety of songs, including classics and modern hits.

“We want to show the public that playing the flute can be lots of fun and that it’s not a boring musical instrument,” Metta said.

United in their love of the flute, members of JakFlute want to share the instrument and the beauty of its sound.

Another member, Fiona, said, “It’s such a shame that so few people know about this musical instrument.”

“Most parents will send their children to a private piano class when they want to build their musical ability. It never occurs to them that other instruments might be as beautiful as piano or guitar,” Metta said.

Asked why there were more female flutists than male players, she explained, “It’s not that the flute is a ‘female’ musical instrument, I don’t believe in such a thing. But I think it’s because the flute produces a very soft and melodic sound.”

One of JakFlute’s missions is to connect flutists in Jakarta so they can play together and exchange information and develop their musical talents.

“You can play flute solo, but it’s so much better if you can play in a big group,” Marini said.

JakFlute is not just a group of people with the same hobby, with members so close that it’s like a family, she added. “It’s that kind of atmosphere that all of us enjoy.”

JakFlute Members Share Their Thoughts:

Charity Olivia, 18, student
Cherry, as her friends call her, is one of the youngest members in JakFlute and has been playing flute since the 10th grade.

“I fell in love with the flute because it produces a very beautiful sound,” Cherry said.

The young musician said she joined JakFlute when it was first established and that she liked being part of the community because it gives her a chance to improve her skills.

“There are so many great flute players here and they always give me new tips and tricks,” she said. “My parents are so supportive and they are happy with my decision to join JakFlute as long as it doesn’t interfere with my school schedule.”

Tsukasa Hirota, 40, Japanese Diplomat
Jakarta is Hirota’s third post after having worked in China and Canada. As the only foreigner in the group he gets a lot of attention from other JakFlute members.

“It’s so much fun being a member of JakFlute. The people are so nice and kind too,” said Hirota, who has been playing the flute for many years.

“It’s wasn’t easy at first since I’m the only foreigner. But I’ve always believed that music is a universal language, so I talk to them with my flute,” he said. “The tutors have great skills and they’re very nice. My playing skills have been improving since I joined this community.”

Hirota said he hoped he could help the flutists’ group flourish. “Flute has a very promising future in Indonesia, there are many good flutists here.”

Metta F Ariono, 33, musician and JakFlute founder
Metta has been playing music since she was only 4 years old. Her first instrument was piano, but later she learned the recorder from her father. In 1993 she saw an orchestra perform for the first time and felt drawn to the music.

She began studying the flute intensively in 1995 at university when she joined a classical orchestra for the very first time.

Now a professional flutist, she plays concerts and gives lessons. This year, she and her friend Marini Widyastari founded JakFlute.

“We want to conduct at least two shows every year so that our members can have the chance to improve their skills,” Metta said. “I’m very excited [about JakFlute]. I never thought we would have so many members.”

insomnia, huh?

yap the last 2 days I've always woken up in the middle of the night..
don't know why..
hmm.. mungkin banyak yg dipikirin kali ya?
hari 1 pas gw kebangun itu jam 12 lewat dikit (serem juga sih kalo dipikir2 kebangun pas jam 12 gt). Tp pas gw kebangun ternyata 1 rumah gw pada masi melek semua ! wow..
ade gw malah masuk ke kamar gw, ngebangunin gw.. dia bilang "Ci,mau nonton acara Michael Jackson ga yg pas 30thn nya itu?" hehe..gw langsung smangat 45! langsung nyalain TV dan bener ada acaranya.. asik nonton akhirnya.. jam stng 2 an baru tidur hehe..soalnya bsk paginya mesti kul..jadi gw paksa2in supaya tidur..
hari 2 gw kebangun lagi! hmm..jam nya sama jam 12 lewat dikit juga.. (mulai berasa aneh..ada apa dgn jam 12 lewat dikit nih?) terus nyalain tv..wah ada take me out, tp da mo abis gt haha..yawda nonton dulu.. stgh 2 baru lanjutin tidur lagi.. and you know what? gw bangun jam 5 lewat dikit..ckck.. cm tidur brp jam coba? dan skrng gw lagi nulis dan membuat bahan untuk presentasi bisnis gw..

sleepy @@

sleepy @@
what? it's just 7.45 p.m and you are already want to sleep,cher?hmm..
ya..hari ini gw kuliah (as usual!), terus ke perpus brng vincent,any,am hilda..ngerjain tugas komputer kita..bukan ngerjain..mencicil lebih tepatnya..ckck..da banyak tugas aja komputer..blm yg mesti translate2 segala..duh,ribet deh.. hehe..
ya,uda 1 mingguan gw memasuki dunia kampus (ceileh bahasanya..haha =p ). Dosen blm bnr2 masuk ke pelajaran..baru bbrp dosen doang yang uda..nah celaka nya,yg udah2 itu pd ngasih tugas ! ckck..gawat...
besok disuruh ngumpulin tugas bhs indonesia gt.. ini gw baru aja kelar ngerjain.. daritadi skalian bk fb juga sih (mknya lama selesainya haha ). tp syukurlah..akhirnya selesaiii..hehe...